Your comment of "I'll have to go back and do it over" caught my attention. You have to move past this way of thinking. I grew up with a mother like that and it made me unwilling to help because no matter how well I did dishes, laundry etc.. she always made a big deal of re-doing it. She was critical of me washing the dishes in the wrong side of the sink...now that's a control freak! Let me tell you from experience it's bad for a kids ego. I am a mother of 20 yr son and 11 yr old daughter and I have taught myself to accept their attempts no matter how well done they are and yes sometimes you may have to "help" afterwards but never, never tell them you had to redo it. I won't go in to details but our son was doing all his laundry by age 13, was made to help with cleaning (and sometimes it was a fight). He had to keep his bathroom clean but his room could be messy. Both our kids were taught right from the beginning to help clean the kitchen at night. Our philosophy is "everyone who eats helps clean". Our friends thought we were a little tough at times but our son is completely independent at age 20 and theirs isn't! At times he chose being grounded over keeping his bathroom clean. It was nothing more than a control fight so we just stood firm on what was expected and he got tired of not being able to go out with friends so he started keeping his bathroom clean! Don't allow your son to be lazy, you aren't doing anyone any favors. Everyone who lives in the house should help out, no free rides.