Long Pity Party, help!!!

[DDH]

Yes, I want to go back to work, but I would like to work at the school so my schedule is somewhat around my DS. My husband being an LEO has a somewhat iratic schedule, and the town we live in (we live in a military town) there is no industry so the job prospects are limited to jobs that want you to be flexible (fast food, grocery stores Wal-mart) stuff like that. That is hard for me, because although a lot of people think that when kids get older they don't need you as much, I think they need supervison all the more but for different reasons.
If I worked a crazy schedule along with DH and his crazy schedule meaning weekends and holidays, he would be home (IMO) way to much by himself and a lot of time, to me, that is borrowing trouble.
But yes, If I could get my MIL into assisted living or some hired help, and am able to get on at the school, I most definetely want to go back to work. I'm more than ready. I know I am limiting myself but the school would be the best even if I just worked in the cafeteria.
Yes, I can walk to my MIL's but most times when I am going up there it's to take her to appt's or get her groceries. They dont' have grocery delivery here. In fact a lot of the services other towns have, this one does not. They have a HOP service but it doesn't come out here.
I have called the Area Agency for the Aging and waiting on a call back from them, but again, her income level is to high for assistance from them, but I am sure they can give me some ideas and suggestions.

I plan to make a chore list for this house but it will be later in the week. I just got back a bit ago from an appt with MIL and now want to go ride, and tomorrow is another appt and it is out of town so most of the day tomorrow will be tied up, so Wednesday will be my first free day.

[tulip]

The Aging Agency is there to help you, your family, and your MIL, not just financially. So even if she's not eligible for certain subsidized programs, she still can participate in activities and you can still get caretaker support (even if it's just talking to others in your position and learning about your options!). The Agency is not just for people with low incomes. Ask them what options are available for you and for her. They are the professionals in this field and that's what they are there for!

Don't get me wrong--there's nothing wrong with being a SAHM. If you can't work in exercise now, then it would be harder if you are working, unless you had other supports discussed above, but still it's adding another layer. I just meant, you know, down the road, if you wanted to work in something that interests you, that you should look into it and not let things keep you from pursuing your dreams. And I meant working part time while the DS is in school, that way you would be home when he's home. I agree on that wholeheartedly.

You are to be commended for all your hard work and patience. I hope you can work in time for yourself soon! I couldn't stand to be with my (now ex) MIL, much less have to take care of her!

Have a good bike ride!

[Grog]

Get a tandem with panniers and get the MIL to cycle with you to the grocery store.