Mr. Silver:

I think you are making the correct decision with the assisted living place. They should deal with the issue with your mother. Sometimes when it comes from outside the family, it is taken more seriously.

But, as I'm sure you know, right now your mother needs a lot of comfort and love. So, do what you can to support her in her grief over losing her husband of many years, but stand firm on your decision with regard to the alcohol.

That is all we can do as childen of alcoholics. You are in my thoughts.

spoke