Dear So and So

[salsabike]

To whom it may concern

It absolutely baffles me as to why some people on some forums continue to describe way too much -- talking about way more personal stuff than anyone else really wants to know. We are glad that you are in a relationship, but there are some details you just generally do NOT share in public. There are things called boundaries; most people have them. It is the ability to discern what is private and what is not. I hope you learn them soon. I believe that you mean well, but my reaction to your declarations (and that of others) is off the scene gagging. Is that what you want us to do?

I know you'll never read this; because you don't come here; but I'm relieved to get it off my chest.

Miss Manners

Yes. Boundaries are good.

[Velobambina]

Queen--Your mom is lucky to have such a loving daughter. I'm sure you are helping her much more than is evident to you right now. Give her a BIG hug.

Tiffany---Couldn't have said it better! Make sure you bring Purell or GermX in, put it on your desk, and use it.

[Tiffany]

Tiffany---Couldn't have said it better! Make sure you bring Purell or GermX in, put it on your desk, and use it.

Done.

[Trek420]

+1 +1 +1 +1 +1

It's not me, I hope? Knott and I try to be prim, respectful, subtle, sedate, discrete, mature .... usually .... mostly ... sorta

[firenze11]

Dear extended family,

When a man on his death bed tells you his wishes for his funeral and wake, you should listen. I can't imagine that you are being so selfish as to suggest going against his wishes completely so it is more convenient for you. A service and tea at a church is not an "Irish wake" and "celebration of life." He didn't want tears. He didn't want a somber funeral. And besides, I can't think of a more wonderful way to honor a very colorful vibrant man.

Also, death and serious illness should not be the accepted as the only incidents to bring family together. Let's try to change that, shall we? And if you don't want to, please don't mention it with a faux sense of sadness. I'd love to get to know you again.

Love,
Firenze

And. . .

Dear Me,

Get on your bike more often. I think I hear him crying. You love it, you like spinervals, so get of your lazy bum and get on the bike. Don't let the winter get to you, just keep thinking about how wonderful it will be in the spring to be faster and stronger than you were in the fall.

Love Always,

Me

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

It's not me, I hope? Knott and I try to be prim, respectful, subtle, sedate, discrete, mature .... usually .... mostly ... sorta

You guys are more discrete than I am!

[mimitabby]

It's not me, I hope? Knott and I try to be prim, respectful, subtle, sedate, discrete, mature .... usually .... mostly ... sorta

my goodness, you are a paragon of decorum! People could learn from your good modeling.
and besides YOU read this forum, dontcha?

[Trek420]

You guys are more discrete than I am!

Bleeker, Mimi, you're both pretty blatant. I don't mind happy loving healthy straight couples (as long as they act G@y in public.)

[Zen]

a paragon of decorum!
I'm sure no one will ever call me that

[Wahine]

Dear extended family,

When a man on his death bed tells you his wishes for his funeral and wake, you should listen. I can't imagine that you are being so selfish as to suggest going against his wishes completely so it is more convenient for you. A service and tea at a church is not an "Irish wake" and "celebration of life." He didn't want tears. He didn't want a somber funeral. And besides, I can't think of a more wonderful way to honor a very colorful vibrant man.

Also, death and serious illness should not be the accepted as the only incidents to bring family together. Let's try to change that, shall we? And if you don't want to, please don't mention it with a faux sense of sadness. I'd love to get to know you again.

Love,
Firenze

And. . .

Dear Me,

Get on your bike more often. I think I hear him crying. You love it, you like spinervals, so get of your lazy bum and get on the bike. Don't let the winter get to you, just keep thinking about how wonderful it will be in the spring to be faster and stronger than you were in the fall.

Love Always,

Me

What is it with people not wanting to honour someone's wishes.

And....

you said "bum". I miss bum... and toque... and tensor bandage... and

Dear co-workers and clients,

Regardless of how it sounds to you, I do not say aboot. I say about. Good English about. You say abOWt, like you're getting hurt right in the middle of the word. Yes, I am Canadian. Yes I will always say things differently. But if one more person accuses me of saying aboot, I may just have to jersey 'em, eh!?

Sincerely,

Proud Canadian Import

[trinena]

(I'm new to forum) Dear cold and flu - Yes you got the last word. I bragged that I was super woman since I got over my first cold and didn't catch the flu from my hubbie. Spoke to soon and now I'm missing the Amgen Tour and the brain cells I need for writing and teaching. I am humbled. Please go away so I can go to PT and swim. Dear asthma - please please keep under control with meds. so far so good!

Dear knee - please stop hurting so I can walk, run, ride.

Dear Dog - please be easy on me while your dad's away and stop sneaking away with my used kleenex.

Dear student - Yes I do know more than you. Listen and change your archaic notions about women.

[Kitsune06]

Dear M-
It felt really good to see you laughing and playing today. I didn't really expect the giggling, laughing and impromptu elbowing-fight we got into on the bench when I laughed and called you a b!tch for skipping our extraordinarily dull women's study class. Secretly, I was really glad you skipped the class that exasperates you the most to go out, enjoy your morning and have breakfast somewhere. I know ending that longterm relationship with your gf is hard on you. That and school, and your first nights alone, and finding a job... When I first met you, you wore it heavy on your shoulders and it was rare to see you smile. You're a funny, sweet woman. It'll all be ok and life will absolutely go on. You've got a friend in me, even if you don't want to talk about the personal stuff. I'll help however I can. I can tell you're a good person.


Dear T-
you're just like I was at 19. that's good and yet it's frightening. You really need to focus your thoughts and efforts. Life isn't about what attention you can get from other people- you're hawt and you know it... you don't need to be reminded over and over. You've been hurt before and you seek this constant reassurance to heal- I know it; I've been there... but the way you're going, you're gonna get hurt again. Please be safe. I'll be that friend for you who isn't 'interested' in you... sometimes you really need that person who will never need or want anything from you.
I know. I've been there.

Dear V-
I'm sorry your mom and future mom-in-law are completely taking control of your wedding planning. I'm sorry your fiance is making unreasonable demands of you when you don't have time and is making you feel bad sometimes. I'm sorry you have to work and go to school full time - both- and are still getting pressured on the wedding stuff. I really respect your drive for your future and your convictions in what's 'right'. I wish I could help more, but I just don't know how, other than to listen. I hope that's ok. I do care. A lot. You can cry any time you need to. Some times you just have to let go with someone who's not involved. I'll be there.

[KnottedYet]

Dear Universe,

There are times when I am so incredibly grateful to be middle-aged.

Thank you for letting me get this far.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Dear Universe,

There are times when I am so incredibly grateful to be middle-aged.

Thank you for letting me get this far.

Amen sister.

Bleeker, Mimi, you're both pretty blatant. I don't mind happy loving healthy straight couples (as long as they act G@y in public.)

Trek, I try my very best!

[Blueberry]

Dear Law Students:

Could you PLEASE come up with something to say in your on campus interviews. Most of you didn't bother to look up our practice areas, what office the interviewers were in (yes, you got that information), or anything else about the firm or us. You didn't even ask good questions. Is it really that hard????

Thank you to the few who were creative. It really is mind numbing to sit there for 8 hours doing 20 minute interviews. If I can't talk to you for 20 minutes, I'm not going to recommend that you get a call back.

-Grumpy, tired attorney