How do I tell a friend....

[AutumnBreez]

Aren't we the funniest group - we all focused on her abhorent treatment of the dog, not on the fact that she slaps her child!

You might be able to bring up the subject of that by turning it around to yourself and your children. "Hey, girlfriend, I would rather that my children don't see you slapping your daughter, so if you must do it, please do not do it in their, or my, presence - it bothers me too..." She might get the idea that it's just not an acceptable behavior, in public or private.

Good point...and point taken and will use the next time she starts to raise her hand at her or the animal, even if it is just to raise hand as to hit (threaten) sometimes it is just a threat, and more are the real deal.
Thank you...