When a friend of mine is in a jam for whatever reason, I ask them what is the one thing that needs doing that is driving them crazy. Mop the kitchen floor? Take out the recycling? Since she has kids...how about a few loads of laundry? Does she love to garden but hasn't had the energy this spring? Plant a pot of flowers for her she can see from her favorite perch and keep it watered for her. Once she feels comfortable with one nice gesture, she may decide help isn't such a bad thing.
You are a good friend to be so concerned. We all need friends like you!
-beth
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05-19-2005, 06:12 PM #1
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05-19-2005, 07:30 PM #2
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There are two types of friends. Those that ask for help, and those that give help when it wasn't asked for.
A friend of mine just had to take in her grandchildren,and while she would never ask for help, I felt I had to do something. She doesn't know how she'll afford the extra expenses of raising these kids, so I just drove to her house, handed her an envelope with some cash, told her it wasn't for her, it was for the kids, hugged her, and left. Don't think about how she'll feel about the help, just help. If you disguise it as help for her kids, she might be more open to it.
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