Prenups?

[KSH]

My encouragement is that if you are sure that this is a mutual relationship and that you would both be forgiving of the other's flaws and mistakes, then skip the pre-nup.

To be fair... who goes into a marriage thinking ANY differently? And if you are thinking differently... then why are you getting married?

I would bet that 96% (? or more) of people who are divorced... didn't think they would be. I'm divorced, and I can tell you, I NEVER thought I would be.

With that said... if someone has been married... and divorced... I think it's safe to say that a "well, anything can happen" can pop into one's head. Never say never... right?


I don't have anything of much value... but IF I ever got married again, I would go with prenup... that is if you can have a prenup that says, "If the man cheats on the woman, he is required to leave the marriage and pay for all debts incurred during the marriage". Of course, I doubt prenups cover cheating a-holes.

Anyhoo... GO WITH THE PRENUP. You have kids... and point out that HE gets to PROTECT his ASSESTS to. I think Paul MacCarthy's (McCarthy?) divorce is a prime example of why prenups are needed. Obviously to the extreme, but still. A prenup protects BOTH sides.

[Mr. Bloom]

To be fair... who goes into a marriage thinking ANY differently? And if you are thinking differently... then why are you getting married?

You're absolutely right.

My view is that if you lay the ground work for a "divorce with ease", then divorce becomes easier to justify than trying to work it out.

I for one believe that laws have evolved to make divorce too easy and I believe that it should be something difficult to get to.

To be fair, I think that marriage is too easy as well and that pre-marital counseling should be a condition of marriage licenses...

teigyr: thanks for pointing out that infidelity is not just a "male thing". I only know a few divorced men, but 80% of them were the ones who were cheated on... I'm not saying they were blameless though...and they know it (at least now)