Old boyfriends or girlfriends!

[onimity]

I saw my HS boyfriend several years after college; we'd kept in touch (barely) through college, then had coffee one night several years later. He had changed a lot & not for the better...I got a strange vibe from him.

He suggested we get together again sometime, I said sure, thinking it would be several more years. Turns out he'd moved back in with his parents in the small town we were from & that weekend he called & asked what I was doing. "Going out with some friends in a few hours" I told him, lying. He said he was thinking of driving up to hang out with some people and wanted to see me. "Uh, I probably won't be home, but give me a ring if you decide to." Well, that was a mistake. I can drive the distance in 1.5 hours, and in less than one my phone was ringing.

I let the machine get it, guess who. He was approaching, wanted to know where I lived. I was a little freaked out & called a friend to ask if he wanted to go to dinner. He came and got me & we met up with some other friends and stayed out pretty late.

When I got home had *36* messages on my machine; this guy had looked my address up in the phone book, found my apt. and waited outside. He apparently saw my friend come pick me up and proceeded to nurse a bottle of tequila in the parking lot outside my apt., and told me how much I meant to his drunk & deluded self in excruciating message after message. "I'm walking around the pool outside now. Are you ever coming home?" He apparently left around 1AM.

He called and left more messages the next day, "I didn't hear from you, I want to make sure that guy didn't chop you up & leave you in a ditch somewhere" etc. Needless to say I didn't return his calls.

After that he contacted old friends, my co-workers, my little sister (he saw she was in a HS play) and told them all how much he just wanted to talk to me, etc. He would call and hang up, or just drive through my neighborhood park and watch for a couple of years after. VERY scary.

Anyhow, -1 here for contacting the ex!

Seriously, I have remained friends with the vast majority of people I've dated, but if you haven't remained in contact sometimes the good memories are better as just that.

Anne

[Grog]

When I got home had *36* messages on my machine; this guy had looked my address up in the phone book, found my apt. and waited outside. He apparently saw my friend come pick me up and proceeded to nurse a bottle of tequila in the parking lot outside my apt., and told me how much I meant to his drunk & deluded self in excruciating message after message. "I'm walking around the pool outside now. Are you ever coming home?" He apparently left around 1AM.

Scary story, Anne!

This guy needs to sign up for the "Don't Drink & Dial" service!!

Glad HE did not chop you up!! Geez.

[Trek420]

Much scary stuff.

I'm in touch with two ex GF's, my first on just a holiday card basis. Neither of us would ever want anything more than wishing each other well. But that I honestly do wish her and her partner of over 25 years well.

L. , "my ex-one removed", long term relationship before the last one...we are now friends. That took a ton of hard work. It was a bad breakup but we've made our peace. Now when I see her maybe once a year at the parade or a ball game (hey, she may be my ex but season tickets to the Giants!!) we're honestly glad to see each other. She and her partner married in San Francisco on valentines day. I'm very happy for them.

Now my ex, the last one? Who's familiar with the phrase "if i never saw her again it would be too soon" I can't imagine being friends or contacting her in any way.

But no stalkers ;-)

[KnottedYet]

I'm in touch with two ex GF's, my first on just a holiday card basis. Neither of us would ever want anything more than wishing each other well. But that I honestly do wish her and her partner of over 25 years well.

And wouldn't you know, *I* belong to the church *her* parents were very active in! And I've been on a few bike rides with one of her old friends.

Small world.