Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Silver View Post
As to your "first love" and at the risk of being controversial, I'd encourage you to not give it another thought. Your DH may feel awkward about you reaching out to someone you admit holding a special place for in your heart...but more importantly, your former flame is either:
  • Over what happened, in which case, you will run the risk of stirring old animosity and emotions that he's previously reconciled, or
  • Not over what happened, in which case, you will run the risk of becoming the focal point of his festering anger...which will leave you feeling mad and upset


I could be totally wrong, but it seems there's a lot more downside than upside to making this contact...
Not controversial at all... Mr Silver has given excellent advice based on the few kiwi males I "interviewed" here about this issue...

I gave them your scenario, Brandi... and my partner, one of my sons and several men at work all had similar repsonses...

Why would my partner/wife/girlfriend WANT to contact an old flame? Is there something the matter with our relationship?

None of them had a problem with meeting up at a reunion - and they expected it... their problem was the deliberate contacting of an old flame...

I also asked about the other perspective - what if an old flame contacted them... they pretty much said the same thing as each other again - one way or another, they would have moved on - interestingly, they were more concerned about their relationships and how their partners/wives/girlfriends would react to an old flame getting in touch...