Fastdogs-

Most of your weight should be on your two sitbones when you ride.

The fact that you feel allover pain especially when you first get OFF the saddle tells me that there is too much pressure on all your sitting area. The pain when getting up is what happens when blood comes rushing back to the soft tissues after all the blood has been mashed out of them for too long.

Having so much weight all over your sitting area and girly parts suggests to me that there is too much pressure along the MIDDLE line of your saddle and your body parts. What SHOULD happen is that there should be a good firm wide support platform on either side of the saddle back part for your two sitbones to perch on. If they can perch on a good firm platform, then the sitbones will keep your soft parts up and prevent them from mashing down onto the saddle. The sitbones will take the pressure, not your soft parts.
Putting all your weight on your sitbones makes you sore there the first few times you ride, but they adapt quickly and are no longer sore much after that. In contrast, your soft parts cannot adapt to the mashing pressure and will continue to be painful forwver as long as they get mashed.
Also- often the more soft padding and gel you put down there (whether from a cushy saddle or from a cushy chamois or both) the more it will press harder against your soft parts and hurt MORE.

Look into getting a saddle that will give a nice firm wide flat support for your two sitbones. You have to get your weight OFF your soft sensitive parts and onto your sitbones.

Just my 2 cents....