Realty check - body image

[annie]

Mary,
You give us something to think about, for sure.
Hey, but maybe someday if you continue to lose weight you will be able to get the excess hanging boob skin reduced. I think it may be a relatively simple operation and perhaps not as costly as one might fear- and not invasive like getting implants. You might even find a doctor willing to take time payments?
And i wonder if somehow it might help alleviate some back problems for you- you never know.
Something you could perhaps look forward to doing eventually...

NOT a relatively simple op at all. Actually more complicated in most cases than getting implants. And you will almost assuredly need implants, also, to fill in the extra skin. Believe me, I'm not saying it wouldn't be worth it! I think it would, and I also think that insurance would cover something like this, because it would not be simply cosmetic. Something to think about for the future, Mary, when you are ready. Certainly something that a competent PS could handle.

Annie

[annie]

Respecting everyones' opinions, I would like to voice my own. I've heard some very negative comments about "boob jobs" on here. Not the first time and one reason why I quit visiting these forums for awhile. The nasty comments hurt at first. Now, I don't really care because I LOVE my new boobs and am totally comfortable with having had a Breast Aug. They do not interfere in any way with my biking, running, etc. I am much happier with my appearance. Very much happier. Would it have been cheaper/easier to be happy with my body image the way I was? Yeah, I have to say it would have. But that wasn't the case. No matter how I worked out, no matter how I watched my diet, I could not achieve the shape I wanted. Vain? Ok, call me vain. I also got braces on my teeth when I was 50 yrs old! And am thrilled with the results. I use make-up, too! And color my hair and shave my legs............ All various levels of self-enhancement. All I'm saying is please do not be too judgemental. Big boobs, little boobs, large or small legs, saggy tummy or tight........ if you can accept what you are, awesome!! If not, and you've got options available for change and choose that route, good for you! We are all individuals and I would hope we can read/listen to others opinions without predujice and respond without criticism.

There you go -- my rant for the evening. Hope I offended no one. And hope I'm still welcome on the boards, new boobs and all.

Annie

[Zen]

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[kjay]

I'm with you, Annie! I say go for whatever makes you happy. It's all in what pleases YOU and no one else!

[Aggie_Ama]

Respecting everyones' opinions, I would like to voice my own. I've heard some very negative comments about "boob jobs" on here. Not the first time and one reason why I quit visiting these forums for awhile. Annie

Annie- I am very sorry if my comment about boob jobs was one of them. I have seen very many women with tastefully done augmentations and do not see any issue. There are just some that I find tacky but I assume their owners love them and I guess it keeps the world interesting. I have tattoos some may find awful but I like them.

[sgtiger]

<<<<<<Annie>>>>>>

I'm sorry anyone said something hurtful about something that is your personal choice. If having them makes you feel better in your skin than more power to you. I ,for one, welcome you back with open arms. I value your knowledge as a cyclist and I have found many of your posts inspiring.

[annie]

Annie- I am very sorry if my comment about boob jobs was one of them. I have seen very many women with tastefully done augmentations and do not see any issue. There are just some that I find tacky but I assume their owners love them and I guess it keeps the world interesting. I have tattoos some may find awful but I like them.

Amanda,

Thanks, but don't worry! I am NOT offended. I think it was my problem that I was defensive for awhile and am now past that.

I've seen tattoos I love and some I do not. Yet I would never criticize. So I know what you're sayin'........

Annie

[Zen]

I'm with you, Annie! I say go for whatever makes you happy. It's all in what pleases YOU and no one else!

Still, you can't stop people from voicing opinions. And we all have them.

[annie]

<<<<<<Annie>>>>>>

I'm sorry anyone said something hurtful about something that is your personal choice. If having them makes you feel better in your skin than more power to you. I ,for one, welcome you back with open arms. I value your knowledge as a cyclist and I have found many of your posts inspiring.

Thanks! As I said to Amanda, maybe it was me who was overly sensitive to comments. IDK!! Whatever, I just wanted to make people aware than their comments can be, and are, taken to heart by some of us reading the posts.

I am first and foremost, on these forums, a cyclist!

Annie

[annie]

Still, you can't stop people from voicing opinions. And we all have them.

True. What an awful, boring world if we all thought exactly the same!! Trouble comes when we try to impose our beliefs on everyone else and assume we are the only ones who are right.

Annie

[Crankin]

Well, I have felt the same way about comments regarding what we do to our bodies. I haven't had a boob job, but I probably am a candidate for one. However, in my case, finding some well made bras that fit have enhanced the body image in a cheaper way. I always wear bras with fiberfill padding, not the heavy stuff, or else everything shows through. I buy my bras on line at BraSmyth, that specializes in having a huge range of sizes. They mostly do bigger sizes, but they do have a page or two of petite sized bras, some with padding, some without. They are not cheap ($50-70), but they fit and sometimes go on sale. I did get fit in a local lingerie shop and it was worth it.

Yes, and I wear make up, get high lights in my hair, paint my nails and love buying clothes. Well, i do buy most of them on line because there are hardly any stores that carry petite sized clothes that are not either for old ladies or teenagers.
In spite of the above, i don't mind getting dirty or sweating. I will never be one of those people who takes their helmet off, shakes their hair out and looks great. And that doesn't bother me at all.

[silver]

Well, I hadn't read this thread yet. I'm posting to tell you, Annie, that I agree 100&#37; with you. Sometimes the comments about boob jobs can be hurtful. A lot of people make judgements about breats implants without really knowing where a person comes from.

I, too, have breast implants. I was barely an AA cup before I lost weight and then when I lost 40 pounds, there was NOTHING. Worse than that, there was nothing and my nipples fell into themselves to make little inverted hammocks. Because I spend 98% my time in workout clothes/tri clothes, enhancing bras were not really an option. I have a boyish figure, slim hips, no rear, muscular waist. Honestly I looked like a 12 year old boy. I worked hard to get fit. I have 6 pack abs. But the more fit I got the worse my breasts looked.

I went to the PS and told him that I wanted to have some breasts. I told him my athletic activites. He agreed to give me implants that would give me some shape and fit my activity level. Mine are some of the smallest that he's used. I'm now a large B/Small C. In some bras I wear a 34B and in others a 34C. I don't think that they look as good as "REAL" breasts, because they are not "real" breasts. But I didn't get that choice.

I don't think that anything had been said here that was terribly offensive, but just wanted to add my support to Annie. Sometimes it seems that the negative extreme examples of breast implants overshadow the others.

[Geonz]

I've gone to a D cup and the last bra I got in that size requires the ductape solution, but I *think* it's a style issue. I wish I knew... and I don't like shopping either. I hate it when Bali takes *my* bra out of circulation. (I'm of the category of people who can neither execute nor imagine spending beau coup bucks on my 'body image.')

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Well, just to clarify my own stance on the subject a bit, for whatever that's worth:

I think it's great that women who feel uncomfortable about the size of their breasts can have them surgically adjusted to make them bigger or smaller- whatever makes them more comfortable about themselves. This is especially understandable for women who naturally have very little or very large breasts, or who have had breasts removed of course.

My only objection to implants is when women get gigantic implants that make them look deformed and bizarre- I feel the promotion of the huge deformed beachball look as an ideal sends a very unhealthy message to young men and young women.
I have no issues about implants or reductions that fall within the realm of what *might* be a natural size. Not my thing, .....but hey, it might BE my thing if I had nothing at all there, or way too much there!

[Brandi]

Ok here's mine.
When i was 14 years old and not comfortable with my body yet (who is at that age), My mom who was the same size as me (34b, very common i would say) had a breast job. It scared me for a long time. I really thought there was something wrong with my size.
I am so over that now! And am very proud of my boobs. They are still pretty perky for a 39 year old very active women. I also know a few women whos' breast are very samll and understand they would like bigger. And support them wanting to improve them. I just don't understand someone like my mom who had perfectly wonderful breast and made them bigger? And the fact that she didn't consider her daughter might be affected by this.