Quote Originally Posted by teigyr View Post
And Trekhawk, I agree with you.

I think affairs happen not because of close proximity but due to problems in someones life or problems in the relationship. It is a sign that something is wrong. There are also people, of course, who just do that sort of thing with thought whatsoever but I'd like to think that's the minority.

I can see both sides. I also believe that affairs aren't just physical so if you were spending more time with your riding buddy (and this translates maybe into emotional intimacy) and not sharing things with your husband, that is a problem.

I met my husband through a male friend (who liked/s me) who still proclaims his affection but realizes I am married. I never even went out with this guy though we did do things as friends. I was never even tempted and I wasn't seeing anyone at the time! My husbands female friends came to our wedding as did my male friends. I was a bartender (ages ago) and when my customers would lament and say things like "I wish my wife were as cool as you" I'd remind them that she probably is, he is just seeing me as an escape and he had better figure out what's going on.

Ok, rant over. I'm glad that the two of you came to terms and that your husband realizes how important cycling is. I think that was a problem in the beginning. So maybe this could have been averted if he had supported you a bit more maybe. And for all my male friends/riding partners/coaches/whatever's wives, there is no need to worry
Adding one more "I agree" to Trekhawk and Teigyr.