Advice with Teenage Daughters & Piercings

[Chile Pepper]

**trying not to grin** The next time you slam a door on me young lady, I will remove the hinges AND the door (I can't wait to use this on my son - and I will take the door off...)

Oh yeah--I am so going to remember this one. My eight-year-old son already has a teenager's attitude. Any chance it will wear off instead of getting worse?

[Chile Pepper]

We only think we have control over what our kids do, when in fact, we only have influence. If we insist on control, we eventually give up influence, too. If you want influence, you have to give up the idea you have control.

Very insightful.

[Ashgarth]

here is my opinion...based on experience.

I am now 28, but when I was in highschool I wanted the same thing--except I wanted my nose pierced---which was pretty extreme back then!
My mom figured this was something she didn't agree with, but that I needed to also learn to make my own choices etc.

She and agreed that if I got good grades (mostly A's) the following semester, that I could get my nose pierced. I really wanted this, so I made darn sure i had good grades and she kept her promise.

A few years later, I got bored with it and took it out. No harm done.
if she is already a good student, then I think it is OK. Tell her she has to keep her grades up etc and all will be good. it isnt a permenent feature

[Mr. Bloom]

Oh yeah--I am so going to remember this one. My eight-year-old son already has a teenager's attitude. Any chance it will wear off instead of getting worse?

I can't lie...probably not...but a door off the hinges could help.

[kiwi girl]

The grades thing works fine so long as deep down you are OK with the piercing.

I wanted my ears pierced and my Mum said I could get it done when I passed 'School C' (short for school certificate - an exam we used to sit when we were 15 or 16). I got good grades (in 6 subjects although that will ony mean anything to Kiwis) and duly got my ears pierced.

My little sister then wanted her ears done but was told 'the house rule is you can get your ears pierced when you pass School C'

all well and good - until my brother passed his School C - came home and said 'I want my ear pierced' - to give Mum and Dad credit they let him do it.

[Tuckervill]

I can't lie...probably not...but a door off the hinges could help.

I prefer copious hugs, even if they stand stiff in your arms, and frequent trips together for ice cream during which you shut your mouth and listen for as long as it takes.

Karen