Need Friend Advice

[mimitabby]

It can have two effects that I see. 1. She realizes she really has a problem and it motivates her to change. 2. It drives her further into misery and drinking. I'm seriously worried that the second one might happen.

Sometimes things have to get worse before they can get better. Zen sort of mentioned it. She's got to get pretty miserable before she's going to decide she had enough. (that rock bottom)
And you can't hold yourself responsible for HER reactions. She engages in extremely self-destructive behavior. That's not your fault. She's going to do it whether you invite her or not. Best have her home drinking than spoiling your party.

Please don't feel guilty, that feeds her behavior. Have fun.

[Starfish]

Yes, please do not feel guilty. You did not cause her drinking, you cannot control it (by however you handle this situation...whether you say things "just right" or not), and you cannot cure it. You can best treat her with respect by telling her the truth with love.

And, enjoy your trip!