Quote Originally Posted by indysteel View Post
I know this may sound overly simplistic, but if you think less about food as either something you deny or indulge yourself, and more about it as fuel to do what you want to do and live the kind of life you want to live, you might find it easier to make healthier choices. It further sounds like you need to get your husband on board with your dietary goals. It saddens me to hear that your legitimate weight loss goals are eclipsed by his desire to eat out. Perhaps there is some room for compromise in your routine, e.g., you will agree to eat out one night during the week and weekend, but not four. I realize it's easy for me to say this, but let him sulk. Does he, by chance, have issues with food and/or his weight?
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Wow, you really got me on this one. You made me realize something that I wouldn't/couldn't do before. My DH has a type of cancer for which currently there is no cure. He has already lived past what was expected and is still doing well. But after he was diagnosed he gained quite a bit of weight. I think it was kind of, "If I'm going to die then I might as well eat whatever the heck I want to." He started walking and cutting out sweets a few months ago (on the verge of diabetes) and dropped about 20 pounds. He has slacked off here recently and is starting to put some of the weight back on. But I think that since I know how much he enjoys going out to eat and that we may not be able to do it forever it makes me feel guilty if I don't eat when/where he wants to eat. Seems like I'm usually eating on his time schedule on the weekends. I've talked about changing the Tuesday Chinese and the Friday Mexican but he tells me how much he enjoys them...especially now that he has quit working...he looks forward to them and our time together. It seems selfish of me to deprive him of this simple thing. Wow, I've really got to think about this.