I wanted to comment on this thread earlier but just didn't have the time to do so, I wanted to let you know about my riding and parteners. I started riding by myself, a few co-workers (female) started riding also, then we slowly got to know each other, and started riding together. We would plan day trips and I always tell DH the stories. We all got better bikes and a male co-worker started riding on occassion with us. DH was made aware. DH I don't think was happy, mind you 3 females, 1 male. The more the male rode, the more DH would comment, do you really need to ride, and you need to make your priorites, there are things around the house that need to be done, etc. Still continued to ride, it was something I could and loved to do and got me out of the house. (It should also be put in at about this time I was also learning how to become independant from him. He was always, what he said, ruled the house type of thing, and I never went anywheres on my days off, stayed home, etc. and I started doing things I wanted to do which I don't think was high on his list to begin with). So, he realized that the male co worker wasn't going away, then DH decided he wanted a bike. "it would be fun" The only time he rode was when the male rode with us. THen if the male rode anywheres near me, DH was right there, other than that, DH rode with the other females or with the male when we rode together. The male hasn't rode with us in almost a year, and DH has only rode 12 miles since with me. I've even told Dh that there are other males, whom he's met at work, want to ride with us, so he's aware that there are other men at work that ride, but then the comments start again that I spend too much time on my bike, and my priorities are different than his..yada yada.... But yet, he tells all my female friends that he wants to ride but just doesn't have the time when they ask when is he going to ride with us again. SO, in my case, I think it might be more than you are riding with a male riding partner, which doens't help. In my case, I think it was a whole combo platter going together. DH still makes comments to me that I spend way too much time on my bike, and should get my priorites set, even when I ride by myself. To which I reply that bike riding is my priority. His priority is work. We just have difference of oppionions, but in the end we still get along well, and look forward to each others company. I've asked him several times to ride with me or the group and get the same reply that he's too busy. ( we've been married 21 years). So, I sortof know where you are coming from. To make my relationship less taxed, I try to avoid confrontation and usually forgo the male encounters or just delete from telling DH that we as a group rode with a male, which I feel is not good. Good luck with your situation. HOpe things work out for you.