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Emily
2011 Jamis Dakar XC "Toto" - Selle Italia Ldy Gel Flow
2007 Trek Pilot 5.0 WSD "Gloria" - Selle Italia Diva Gel Flow
2004 Bike Friday Petite Pocket Crusoe - Selle Italia Diva Gel Flow
Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.
> Remember to appreciate all the different people in your life!
I'm the opposite. After 22 years of marriage - when DH isn't around I don't know what to do with myself. I watch WAY more TV (if you call *click* *click* *click* remote surfing watching TV). I pace around, I get up sit down get up sit down and I can't sleep! I go to be VERY early usually - 10 - 10:30 pm. When DH is gone, I lay in bed staring at the clock.. get up.. go back to bed.. get up.. I sometimes have to take a sleep aid or I'd not sleep at all.
What's interesting is that when the kids are out - the TV is off. DH and I just talk. And talk.. and talk.. and talk. You'd think after all these years we'd run out of stuff, but we don't. Or we listen to the Yankees on the radio, sitting outside by the pool.
But when he's gone - it's like half of me is gone too! I miss him so much![]()
he's the same way except that when I'm gone - he gets so restless he attacks projects to keep himself distracted and busy. I'll come home and the garage will be cleaned, or the basement or he'll have painted a room or something. he's far more productive when he misses me! I'm just pathetic and maudlin LOL.
If I can - I try to get together with a girlfriend on those nights - that helps a LOT.
T.
I'm afraid I might have to agree with you, Zen. Oh my goodness, I think I am becoming a spinster. 33 years old and I've lived alone since I was 22! I am very set in my ways...I think I've becoming very selfish too...it's almost scary. I don't know how in the world I would handle having someone else living with me. I guess it would have to be a very, very special someone. Like, you know, a real Prince Charming. Now if I could only find him...
DH goes away for 2 nights every 6 weeks and I do less cooking (that's when I indulge in not so healthy food sometimes), less dishes (due to the above), feel less guilty if I spend a lot more time on the net or just lounging around watching TV at times I would not normally switch on, and do less clock watching (i.e. I don't have to get meals ready at a specified time, just when I feel like it).
Our holidays don't always overlap, so during those times I enjoy listening to radio or CD's while on the computer eating not so healthy food (occasionally). I'm bad!![]()
When my husband is away (happens about twice a year), I follow the clock less. I eat when I want/what I want. I sit less (more time on the bike and later in the day). I briefly feel less a partnership and more the independent woman I used to be before we got married. I enjoy my solo times because I create what I do each day and this requires a different type of interaction with the world and with self.
My DH just returned yesterday after being gone for 10 days.
I definitely watched less TV (I've always watched very little before I met him), but I also found that I ate less, too. I cooked more though...it was fun to cook without pressure. If I screwed it up, there is no one to care but me, so I did a lot of experimenting!
I also had less time in general because without him around, I had to do everything I normally do plus the things he does! And here I thought I did everything anyway...guess I was wrong!
I did read more, I shopped more (groceries and other stuff) and I watched the clock a lot less.![]()
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