This is Exactly my problem. I'm so sorry you are suffering there - have you found the 'special' underthings to wear that don't cause additional rubbing the day after a ride? ugh. Plus the bruised & sore tendons that run thru that region - owie owie ow some more. I almost want to find some skeletal anatomy diagram to identify the name of those bones when talking saddle pain & poor fit.
Sit bones - the ones we should be using - they are further back in the butt, yes? So as when one sits on a wood chair or hard surface, can feel it back there. I'm fairly certain that these are the bones that are Supposed to support me on the saddle.. but apparently pigs will fly before any shop owner will clarify that.![]()
I've used a gel measuring tool (specialized or terry?) to figure out how wide that span is, and applied that to my saddle shopping. I've ordered a Brooks B68 and I'm going to try that on my road bike, and am doing some serious finger crossing that this will help solve the problem for me. If this works, I'll give all of my justification & quasi-scientific reasoning on how I selected the saddle.
I hope you find your solution soon ~ meanwhile... ice packs?![]()