Indy, I'm sending butteflies to you and your friend!

Everyone has said the right things here, and all I can add is - make sure she knows she doesn't have to be strong for you.

As someone who is in the midst of dealing with a health issue, I feel very alone sometimes. And since I'm usually the one sending out the positive vibes, smiling and shining light on everything, I really feel as if there is no-one that I can cry to, no-one that I can share those really scared, really angry, really sad, really "what am I going to do" thoughts. And since I'm just dealing with mild Crohn's, and she may be facing cancer, she may have those thoughs even more than I do!!

As for what I'd want - well, someone who will not get freaked out if I cry or say crazy things about how I'm feeling, someone who wouldn't judge me, someone who will listen, and then someone who will laugh when I'm ready to laugh about it all. Whenever possible, let those emotions flow, but before you part ways, let there be light - hugs, laughter, whatever it takes in the moment.

And then, when you find the worry and difficulty too much, post here so we can all support you, too!

Hugs and warm, loving, accepting butterflies,
~T~