See, there are things that sweet people simply do not do. There are momentary oversights or special circumstances but it is the exception and not the rule. DH tends to give people the benefit of the doubt which is nice and tolerant of him; I am quicker to link the action with the integrity of the person. (Thanks Mimi for earlier, by the way! I joke about the B word just because I can be fairly resolute about things.)

Back to the friend who borrowed money - I see pattern. He borrowed from his GF then borrowed from his friend THEN intentionally avoided contact and when contact was made, he was insulting. Grrrrr. I would've loved to have been the one he said that to because I DO have aggressions to work out

Silver, we had a situation like that also though it was a relative. Was bad. Fortunately, nobody thought this guy was nice or sweet though he did a lot of damage.