I don't know...I tend to define people by their actions. A sweet or nice person doesn't act quite so inconsiderate unless it truly is an oversight instead of a pattern. This guy KNEW so, um, in my mind it makes him something I can't say here

DH and I get into debates about this. He'll say someone is a sweet person but they just have these bad "habits". These habits can include lying, using people, you get the idea. I say then no, this person is NOT a sweet person. I can see genuine misunderstandings or forgetfulness but not as a rule. Also, apologies work wonders and a truly nice or sweet person will be somewhat mortified by their actions (or forgetfulness) and say they're sorry. Maybe?

Then again, I'm kind of a b&*^# too