When two people are in a very streessful situation together, it's easier to push each other away and take it out on each other than it is to pull closer together. But to get through the hard times it will be better if you both draw each other closer for strength, and concentrate on keeping the negative feelings focused at "the enemy" rather than at each other. Maybe you should talk openly to him to clear the air and say you want to start pulling together to face the current challenges as a unified team? If he senses your loving intentions it might be a good positive discussion. Good luck!