Hi Darcy, Colleen from Ohio here. Your post is a good insight into the mind of the cycling widow. It's a shame that Aunt Jean won't start riding, and then she could share in some fun activity w/her husband and develop some respect for him instead of resentment.

I work w/older adults and it's shocking how often older couples allow their relationships to digress into seething mutual resentment. It's quite an eye-opener.

I'm sorry for your loss, and for your unhappy encounter. But I'm happy that you are healthy and riding everyday and wearing cute new outfits and enjoying your increasingly svelte form. It's a shame Aunt Jane can't see the goodness in that.