Jealousy?

[margo49]

People here like to see me riding.
I think they *do* wonder about the solitary aspect (both from a safety and a social p.o.v.). Both Jews and Arabs are very family, social and group cultures. In New Zealand they/we place a high value on being alone every so often. They/we think it clears the head.
Also people think that because I am a cancer survivor and also recovered from a horrendous accident if I do things like ride it is a sign that I am "well".

That said, I think underneath people feel a kind of weird pride in knowing "someone like that" but it gets complicated because they themselves don't/can't do the same and this is what we are interpreting as jealousy. Combined with this, it is easier for us to cope with such a reaction if we call it jealousy because jealousy is "negative".

I know what you mean. Still, you have to be yourself.

Glad you raised this,btw

[lizbids]

Thanks, Margo, yes, I use the word "jealousy," but i understand it comes across as negative--so what word can we use? I'm not sure, because JEALOUS makes it sound like something terrible, when in fact, it would be whistfulness to be able to do the same? I look forward to more of the women's opinions on this matter, and maybe we can get through the semantics to find the right word But, yes, I know what you mean, and I know you know what I mean!

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Thanks, Margo, yes, I use the word "jealousy," but i understand it comes across as negative--so what word can we use? I'm not sure, because JEALOUS makes it sound like something terrible, when in fact, it would be whistfulness to be able to do the same? I look forward to more of the women's opinions on this matter, and maybe we can get through the semantics to find the right word

Envious.

And it's likely that all the people you mention are experiencing various combinations of worry and envy- not all one way, and certainly it shows that they do care about you. It doesn't matter exactly what their proportion of worry to envy is though- you should just do what you want to do anyway and take care of yourself. Reassure them lovingly...and then just do your own thing.