Weird question: Has anyone here ever...

[doc]

In person I've never been mistaken for a guy, but I am ALWAYS called "sir" on the phone. I have a deep, but not-that-deep voice. Somehow the phone makes it a little lower and I am NEVER called Miss. It gets annoying, but hey, I assume no offense intended, so none taken.

[Pax]

In person I've never been mistaken for a guy, but I am ALWAYS called "sir" on the phone. I have a deep, but not-that-deep voice. Somehow the phone makes it a little lower and I am NEVER called Miss. It gets annoying, but hey, I assume no offense intended, so none taken.

It's weird, the older I get the deeper my voice seems to be. I tell myself it's not so much masculine as much as it's Kathleen Turner-esque.

[Kitsune06]

When I'm biking, people mistake me more for a dude. I've had a carfull of stupid teenage girls whistle and cheer etc while I'm sitting there at the light... then I looked over, said "Well Thanks, ladies- and I haven't even taken my jacket off yet!" They were floored I didn't *think* I looked so much like a guy on my bike, but... maybe I do?

People call me 'sir' occasionally. It happened more to my ex, who was 5'8 with squarer jaw and shoulders, but it did happen to me occasionally. Especially when I'm wearing the baggy cargos w/ crotch near my knees and baggy tees. I actually enjoyed xing for awhile but my voice *can not* cooperate.

Not. Amused.

[Bluetree]

I've had a carfull of stupid teenage girls whistle and cheer etc while I'm sitting there at the light... then I looked over, said "Well Thanks, ladies- and I haven't even taken my jacket off yet!"

LOL

[IFjane]

Blue - I've never been mistaken for a boy, but once years ago when I was all dressed up (well, as dressed up as tomboy me would get ) and had gone out to dinner, the wait person asked when I was due. I said, "due?" and she said, "yes, when are you going to have your baby".

Uh....I went on a diet the next day - right after the dinner and dessert digested!

[Kitsune06]

Good Lord.
I had a discussion with my coworkers while we were back @ the gas station once upon a time b/c one guy inserted his foot in his mouth in such a way. I said, essentially "Unless the woman is *giving birth* you do not ask if she is pregnant etc. You *do not ask* when it is due. God *help* you if you say 'congratulations' and congratulations are *not* in order. Unless you know her well, do *not* ask about the baby's daddy."

[mimitabby]

Good Lord.
I had a discussion with my coworkers while we were back @ the gas station once upon a time b/c one guy inserted his foot in his mouth in such a way. I said, essentially "Unless the woman is *giving birth* you do not ask if she is pregnant etc. You *do not ask* when it is due. God *help* you if you say 'congratulations' and congratulations are *not* in order. Unless you know her well, do *not* ask about the baby's daddy."

Yes, this is very good. I have gotten in trouble myself with married women
of the right age whose bellies grew... twice now.. how embarrassing.
NO, STUPID, I JUST GAINED WEIGHT!

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Good Lord.
I had a discussion with my coworkers while we were back @ the gas station once upon a time b/c one guy inserted his foot in his mouth in such a way. I said, essentially "Unless the woman is *giving birth* you do not ask if she is pregnant etc. You *do not ask* when it is due. God *help* you if you say 'congratulations' and congratulations are *not* in order. Unless you know her well, do *not* ask about the baby's daddy."

Once I was in a group of people and there was a couple and the young wife looked about 5 months pregnant. I wisely kept my mouth shut (just in case), but another guy asked when the happy day was going to be. Her and her husband's faces dropped and her husband softly explained that they had just had a stillborn full term baby about 3 weeks before and they were still in mourning. It was a pretty awful moment. Always best to keep quiet until the woman mentions that she is pregnant.

[Aggie_Ama]

Blue - I've never been mistaken for a boy, but once years ago when I was all dressed up (well, as dressed up as tomboy me would get ) and had gone out to dinner, the wait person asked when I was due. I said, "due?" and she said, "yes, when are you going to have your baby".

Uh....I went on a diet the next day - right after the dinner and dessert digested!

I had this happen when I was dressed up for a funeral visitation. I had an older cousin (my father's age) pat me on the stomach and tell me "No one told me the good news." This was when I was my skinniest (size 4-6). I had Mexican for lunch and I said "Sorry, I am just bloated. It is my ENCHILADA baby". I was so upset because I had been working my tail off to get that small.

[margo49]

All my childhood (*and* I wore skirts - no jeans in those days).
In my 20's I wore the usual looney-feminist uniform and the question then as if I was a "sea retaining wall" or not.
I enjoyed the androgny actually (tho' I felt embarassed as a reflection of the embarrassment of the other person who had made this "horrendous" mistake).
Has happened hardly at all since I was 30 - must be something hormonal or pheremonal.
Still *feel* the same ie human of yet-to-be-determined gender.
I read something once that there is a multiplicity of gender-determining indicators eg chromosomes, self-image, hormonal balances, physical "parts". So I personally think I have some contra-indications in my body/blood/brain/heart
Tho' I did feel more obviously a woman when I was pregnant. And then I thought "Ah, so *that* is what "they" have been on about all these years!"
It was a pleasant experience to be normal ie what people expect ; tho' I suspect if it had gone on for too much longer it would have begun to pall!!

[makbike]

Gosh it happens to be on a regular basis. I'm 5'2", muscular, small chest and short hair. I typically wear jeans, t-shirts, hoodies and a baseball cap. I don't wear make up or jewerly and I'm not the girly, frilly, pink type so I guess the mistake is an honest one. It does make my BF mad when it happens but I guess I've gotten so accustom to it the mistake really does not bother me anymore. I'm comfortable with who I am and that is all that counts.

[Kitsune06]

y'know...
before moving to the PNW I wore jeans and baseball caps much more often. Midwestern thing, you know. got it a lot more then. (and YES I know how to roll my bill- though bill-rollers will say I roll mine 'like a farmer'. it sheds the rain well but doesn't look as sporty. Yada yada)

[solobiker]

Well for me it used to happen when I was younger and in Jr HS. One time I walked into the girls locker room to change for gym class and a few girls screamed and said you don't belong in here, this is the girls locker room. Also when I was in 7th grade, a 12th grade boy threw me up against a locker and threatened to beat me up as he thought I was a boy that had given him a dirty look.

[Kitsune06]

Yup. That's happened to me. ...hmm. It's happened that bigger, burly women have thrown me up against lockers (and crammed me into them...)

I had too much fun with it. We had a 'switch day' in HS during that week before homecoming when everyone comes up with weird stuff to do (guess who did that. HAHAHAHA Student Council could be fun...) so I went online and bought a theater goatee (trimmed so it was a little thinner and finer- highschoolish), latex adhesive, etc.
That and baseball cap, head down, shaved-short blue hair poking out around baseball cap, baggy jeans packin' etc, I looked the part. Walking a friend home, I had *an acquaintence* say "HEY (friend I was walking with) WHO'S YOUR BF?! HE'S CUTE!!!!" So we walk over. she was it was hilarious. I make a very cute, sorta fae looking boy, apparently.

[Mr. Bloom]

people call me "sir" all the time...