Aggie,
my mother married a first generation american that she met in Texas, so first he was spoiled by his aristocratic polish bourgeois mother, and then by his first wife, a texas born and bred stay at home mom.
My mother has trained him to vacuum, load the dishwasher and MAKE HIS OWN LUNCH. This dude is 80 (they were about 55 when they got married)
so it CAN be done.
My mother still complains about all that she has to do, but you can get your man to help out...

He's got it way too easy.