Spending money, separate accounts, etc. This is really a touchy subject in my long time marriage with Hubby. My hubby is basically VERY frugal. We have managed to enable each other with bike stuff since we are both into riding. So that has not seemed to cause many problems; but smaller things can get a bit dicey sometimes. He likes to try to make me feel guilty about spending money (not that i'm a spendthrift) but sometimes it is for something he does not understand and then he tries to make me feel guilty.

Just recently, I told him that I was taking some tennis lessons and he immediately was very defensive and wanted to know HOW MUCH IS THAT? Well, I told him, and he was obviously not very pleased. So, now I'm just trying to ignore him.

He is not working full time and has not been for a year and a half. I work full time to make sure we can pay all our bills and I am still saving money; so I figure I can spend my money on tennis for a while if I want to.

I have to say, if I am going to buy a bike, or something that is over say $300, then I will tell him what I am planning to do. We usually talk those larger purchases out before we go and buy them. There are some exceptions, like when he buys a tool of some sort. I've always wondered why that is an exception to him, but it is and to tell you the truth I really don't care so I don't say anything. (It only gets to me a little because he can be so goofy about something like tennis lessons!)