Suggestions to avoid a divorce!

[Thistle]

Whisper in his ear how you just really want to get DIRTY!

LOL best response ever

[Aint Doody]

Thanks for all the great advice! I think I may use a combination. He doesn't like to ride a bicycle--at all. He could certainly use the exercise. He's a wonderful man, and I know he won't really be mad. He just won't understand. I tried this evening saying, "Would you consider going out into the woods on trails on a mt. bike to just see the scenery and do some easy riding?" The answer was a roll of the eyes and a polite but emphatic no. I think I'll just work that into the conversation a bit more from time to time and explain that I'd like to do that as well as ride on the road. All he wants to do is play golf. And that's fine. I'll remind him that there are 14 clubs in his bag---wouldn't one do??? Doesn't that sound good??? Mr. Silver????

Oh, and no, he really wouldn't throw me out.

[annie]

I can very much relate to your situation. My DH doesn't ride either, much tho' I've tried to get him interested. He doesn't really understand why I NEED a bike for the road (actually two bikes), one for off-road, one for touring, etc. He does golf, a bit. I acutally wish he was more into golfing. Maybe then we could do some trade-offs....... In any case, I knew he wouldn't be angry when I got my MTB, he'd just roll his eyes, make a snide comment, then let it be. He did so. I let it pass. I still have the bike. Could set a precedent for getting more bikes in the future. Like you said, not mad, just does not understand. As long as you accept each others interests, it works out. Hope you get your bike soon.

annie

[Aint Doody]

Gee, Annie--are we married to the same man? Is his name Kris???

Susan

[annie]

LOLOLOL!! I couldn't decide which thread to respond to. No, not Kris. Whew, TG, or he'd have to be traveling at the speed of sound to take care of both of us.

annie

[mimitabby]

After telling my DH about this thread he said I can turn my cross bike into a MTB so I can ride on unpaved trails (gravel, etc)

[Mr. Bloom]

All he wants to do is play golf. And that's fine. I'll remind him that there are 14 clubs in his bag---wouldn't one do??? Doesn't that sound good??? Mr. Silver????

Oh, and no, he really wouldn't throw me out.

First, I'm glad that he wouldn't throw you out...Silver said it appeared that I thought you were serious...I didn't. So, sorry if my response came across as intense...but misunderstandings like this can really fester in a marriage.

On a lighter note, I LOVE the golf club analogy! I'm not a golfer (it's too slow and boring to me), but that is an outstanding comparison that can't be debated

[7rider]

Thanks for all the great advice! I think I may use a combination. He doesn't like to ride a bicycle--at all. He could certainly use the exercise. He's a wonderful man, and I know he won't really be mad. He just won't understand. I tried this evening saying, "Would you consider going out into the woods on trails on a mt. bike to just see the scenery and do some easy riding?" The answer was a roll of the eyes and a polite but emphatic no. I think I'll just work that into the conversation a bit more from time to time and explain that I'd like to do that as well as ride on the road. All he wants to do is play golf. And that's fine. I'll remind him that there are 14 clubs in his bag---wouldn't one do??? Doesn't that sound good??? Mr. Silver????

Oh, and no, he really wouldn't throw me out.

Have you taken delivery of the bike yet, or is it still at the shop?
You could take him for a walk in the woods, explaining "This would really be a whole lot faster and more fun if we were on bikes!"

Like BJJ and others, DH and I maintain separate accounts for our own use - joint acct for household stuff. If he wants toys, he can get them....after his other financial obligations are met. Of course, since we are both cyclists (and skiers), we tend to be major enablers for each other in that department!

[Aint Doody]

Regina, that's a good idea, but I know he'd not even want to go on a walk. But I'll try. The bike isn't here yet. I can probably put in the house--dining room--and he won't even notice. Then I can say--This old thing? I've had it a long time.

Susan

[IFjane]

Since golf clubs can also be quite expensive, I think a 1:1 ratio of bikes to golf clubs is in order!

[Irulan]

I fear my husband will throw me out! Maybe he won't notice??!!

I guess I'll never understand the spending of joint funds without discussing the purchase first. imsho, if you've made a substantial purchase out of joint funds without discussing, it, you should feel bad. Hiding purchases does not contribute to a serene marriage. Wouldn't it be better to build support for biking in your relationship, and plan your purchases?

[Aint Doody]

Pardon me, but this original post was mostly in fun. I don't feel bad one bit.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Hiding purchases does not contribute to a serene marriage.

She's right, Susan. Besides, it's not easy to hide a bike.
But wait...maybe if you get the XXXL bike skort from Terry you can hide the bike underneath it as you ride. If you don't ring your bell or turn on your lights it might look like you are just serenely gliding down the street in a long skirt...