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[Bikingmomof3]

I suck as a mom. I could not go to the concert. My baby looked great and DH is filming it on our camera. Still, I suck.

[Lise]

I suck as a mom. I could not go to the concert. My baby looked great and DH is filming it on our camera. Still, I suck.

You Don't Suck!

You sound like a great mom to me. You just have some physical restrictions.

That Is All.

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I still feel like poop. J. is coming over tonight with chicken soup and ice cream. I've rubbing Vicks Vaporub into every muscle I can reach. I just plain hurt all over. Two of my colleagues will cover my clinic tomorrow, and my call shift tomorrow night, if need be. I really hope to feel a lot better so I can do the call shift. It's such a burden to cover a 12 hr night for another midwife.

[Bikingmomof3]

You Don't Suck!

You sound like a great mom to me. You just have some physical restrictions.

That Is All.

Thanks.
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I still feel like poop. J. is coming over tonight with chicken soup and ice cream. I've rubbing Vicks Vaporub into every muscle I can reach. I just plain hurt all over. Two of my colleagues will cover my clinic tomorrow, and my call shift tomorrow night, if need be. I really hope to feel a lot better so I can do the call shift. It's such a burden to cover a 12 hr night for another midwife.

I knew J would care for you. Now you rest and do not worry, your shift will be covered should you need it covered. Your health is the most important thing right now. Rest and allow J to pamper you.

[mimitabby]

I suck as a mom. I could not go to the concert. My baby looked great and DH is filming it on our camera. Still, I suck.

OH COME ON Jennifer, like it's your fault that you got sick? You don't tell your kids they are bad when they are sick do you?

They know how much you'd like to be there!

[Bikingmomof3]

OH COME ON Jennifer, like it's your fault that you got sick? You don't tell your kids they are bad when they are sick do you?

They know how much you'd like to be there!

Thank You Mimi. I was so looking forward to it, especially since I missed the twins' concerts. I am looking forward to them coming home so I can watch the concert.

My family is very understanding, but I still feel badly.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Ok Jennifer- Please forgive me for butting in to your business, BUTT....
there are two ways of feeling sorry for yourself. The first way is exemplified by Lise feeling like crap and treating her poor suffering self well with Vaporub and bed and allowing her beau to come bring soup and feel sorry for her too. The Bad Thing is something from outside, not something she was responsible for creating. She will roundly embrace her feeling bad and thus be able to then let it go quicker.

The second way to feel sorry for yourself is to blame yourself for your illness AND for the consequences of your illness. You might be imagining your family is angry at you for being sick- so you take over their anger and get mad at yourself so you can beat them to it, thus swiping THEIR ability to be angry with you. UNfortunately, that method creates a negative/negative situation, only the two negatives don't make a positive here. I know you don't just have a cold, but perhaps you can treat your up and down days as separate events to be dealt with individually. Maybe that will make them more manageable in your mind if they are not one big thing. It's always a good method to break a Big Thing into smaller parts in order to more effectively manage it.

Your family doesn't want you sulking around in a black mood kicking yourself. Don't teach your kids that one should hate themselves when they are sick. They want you to be as much like the Mommy they know and love as you can. That doesn't necessarily mean you driving around doing stuff- it means putting on a good positive attitude even if you miss being able to do a lot of things you were able to before. I'm sure your smiling face and loving attitude is WAY more important and reassuring to them than your "doing" things like going places with them and doing errands, etc.

I remember when my 2 daughters were in school. They were in the choir, band, orchestra, etc. There were concerts all the time, and much as I love my girls, it became a chore to try to go to every one. So my exDH and I decided back then to alternate our attending the concerts, unless it was a very special event. That worked out well for everyone, and my kids felt good that there was always one of us there watching. They didn't really need us BOTH to be there every time. I guess I'm trying to say that kids are very understanding and resilient if they feel loved.

So feel sorry for yourself- in a healthy enthusiastic way! Too many people love you and they can't all be wrong. - you are RICH. Really go to town and be miserable, feel mega bad about missing the concert and other things, but... don't BLAME yourself because that's a path that goes nowhere. xoxox

Speaking of misery...
Hey Lise, I really FEEL that miserable cold you've got now! Ugh, the fever, coughing, sore throat, headache, earaches, running nose, shivering, weakness, burning eyes, no appetite....that was me all over last week!
Now I am so beyond thrilled to be 2/3 better. You have my total sympathy and understanding. It's a whopping NASTY cold. I guess it's a cold because I never threw up or got upset stomache at all.

So here's to really feeling bad so we can get better prepared to feel good again. (Does that make sense? I'm not sure!)

[Bikingmomof3]

So feel sorry for yourself- in a healthy enthusiastic way! Too many people love you and they can't all be wrong. - you are RICH. Really go to town and be miserable, feel mega bad about missing the concert and other things, but... don't BLAME yourself because that's a path that goes nowhere. xoxox

Thank you Lisa. My children never see me upset about what has happened, I would never allow that. I save it for here. Nick understood why I could not be there. My kids are wonderful and so is my husband. Life has changed for all of us, but not in a bad way, it is different, but not bad.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Thank you Lisa. My children never see me upset about what has happened, I would never allow that. I save it for here. Nick understood why I could not be there. My kids are wonderful and so is my husband. Life has changed for all of us, but not in a bad way, it is different, but not bad.

I'm so glad to hear that! You sure are inspiring, woman.
I was afraid you were in a really black mood all over and hating yourself. So now I understand that you were just letting off natural frustration here amongst women friends. Goody!! Vent on!

[kelownagirl]

Hi TD, I've been b*tchy all day at school and anyone who got in my way, look out! Hopefully, I'll be back to my usual cheery self tomorrow.

CC - I've been reading the church thread too but didn't post on it. (Since I'm an atheist - ok no flaming please - I figured it was best not to.

BMO - So sorry you missed the concert again tonight. Glad your family is so understanding. I know what you mean about the lights too - strobes give me a migraine... And you probably don't want to hear this but being the knowledgable woman you are, you are probably aware of the connection between chocolate and migraines. I'm happy to say that my two big loves - chocolate and red wine - do not cause migraines for me. Thank Nature! (can't say 'thank god' after my previous comment...) Anyway, I'm assuming chocolate doesn't contribute to your headaches? And yes, I'm definitely going to get tix to Meatloaf. Gotta wait till March for the concert though...

AG and Dar - good luck with the dating scene!!

Lise - sorry you are sick, must be even tougher when it's not easy to get coverage for work...

Knot - have a great trip (are you gone already? I think so.) I'm thinking you gotta change your son's handle. I call him ess-knot in my head, which I sometimes shorten to snot. It's not working for me

Fish - Welcome Back! Sorry that both Roux and Dh aren't well.

Snap - TWO lbs! You go girl! I have gained a 1/2 lb this week. WRONG direction! Ugh. It ain't gonna get any easier over the next two weeks either...

Mimi - OMG I dreamt about you last night! You looked like the girl in your avatar but in colour. HAHA! I had a pet mouse (gee thanks Nanci) and I brought it to your house to show you. You were renovating at the time we we sat out on your back patio. Weird...

Congrats on the article - that is SO cool! And yes, I suppose Kelowna is part of the PNW although I tend to think of it as the PSE We're more the interior actually, like Spokane...

A kid without a coat? Well, since very few, if any, of the kids at my school are in the "I can't afford decent winter clothes" camp, if a kid didn't wear appropriate clothes to school, I'd make them sit in the office during break. I can't imagine making the whole class stay in if ONE kid wasn't dressed properly.