Ask around of cyclists in your area. There is usually a shop that has someone who does a really good job on wheels. Go talk to them. They can lead you in the correct direction. By your email, you have thought about all the things that you need to be be able to voice what you want.

Yes, Mavic SSL's are difficult to ride in a cross wind! I live in Flagstaff, ARizona where it is really windy most of the time ESPECIALLY IN THE SPRING! When I first started riding my very light Giant TCR with Mavic Ksyrium SSL's, it took me a while to get more used to the fact that I'm really light on that bike and the wheels really catch the wind! Sometimes, it still takes me for a ride!