Dear So and So

[mimitabby]

Thanks Mimitabby and Salsabike,

We got your weather! Today it has been 10 degrees C with rain, hail and snow it's supposed to be the end of spring!! We needed the rain, so, thankyou Mother Nature!

Keely

Dear Keely
I am afraid you did not get OUR weather. We don't have hail or snow, but today it was raining buckets and there is a wind warning for the whole day. So this incredible low system is still here!!
They even might have to shut down some bridges because the wind is so strong. But I am really really glad that you got the rain you need so all the little critters and plants will survive the season.

Mimi

[Duck on Wheels]

Dear DH,
Thank you for stacking paper and wood in the oven in the morning. If I get home before you all I have to do is light a match, chuck it in, and shut the oven door. In minutes the whole house is toasty warm. Sorry I then promptly fall asleep and let the fire go out so you have to start it all over again an hour later.
Your frozen duck

[mimitabby]

Dear Miss Manners
My sister is again rehashing my husband's behavior from last christmas. We have already been through it all, and as a result he and she are still not talking (she lives in another state). She wants him to apologize, and he feels that she hurt him very badly by telling ME that he was not welcome in her house. So he is expecting an apology, and she is expecting an apology too. Fortunately for me, HE does not talk about this stuff, but SHE wants to rehash everything again.
She even suggested that I am being insensitive to HER feelings... argh..

I am torn between wanting to fix everything and stay on good terms with both of them. I really hate to remasticate old prune pits.
what should i do?

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I am torn between wanting to fix everything and stay on good terms with both of them. I really hate to remasticate old prune pits.
what should i do?

How about telling them both that for whatever reason, the old garbage is fouling the air and needs to be cleaned out- therefore, if they BOTH write a simple apology note or phone call to the other....this only works if nobody is allowed to try to tell the other that they were wrong, or why they were upset, or start bringing up the whole scenario again.
Just a simple non-judgemental apology and move forward: "I'm sorry that I may have said or done things to upset you. Can we start over?" If you can get them on the phone and make them each read out that sentance (and nothing more), perhaps they can both start fresh.
The problem persists when one person continues to try to prove the other one wrong. It's old trash that needs to be thrown out already.

[Duck on Wheels]

My Iranian refugee friends have brought with them a splendid tradition for tossing out old trash like this. Some weeks before New Years (Iranian New Year, which is in the early Spring) you plant lots of seeds in pots -- grass seeds, watercress, stuff that greens up fast. On New Years you throw them all out as a symbol of last year's resentments and transgressions, gone, done, over, forgettaboutem. I'm sure there's more to it that this bare bones version, but it does seem a refreshing idea.

[mimitabby]

My Iranian refugee friends have brought with them a splendid tradition for tossing out old trash like this. Some weeks before New Years (Iranian New Year, which is in the early Spring) you plant lots of seeds in pots -- grass seeds, watercress, stuff that greens up fast. On New Years you throw them all out as a symbol of last year's resentments and transgressions, gone, done, over, forgettaboutem. I'm sure there's more to it that this bare bones version, but it does seem a refreshing idea.

my sister and my mother are masters of still being mad about what happened to them when they were six. my mother finally dropped all the complaints about her bad childhood after her mother died at the age of 92.
(she'll still start up about it if you ask her though!!)

[KnottedYet]

Dear Universe,

Thank you. I treasure this.

Knot.

[paigette]

my sister and my mother are masters of still being mad about what happened to them when they were six. my mother finally dropped all the complaints about her bad childhood after her mother died at the age of 92.
(she'll still start up about it if you ask her though!!)

Family drama is the 1 thing I HATE about the holidays!

My uncle's R wife(they got married a few years ago, I don't consider he an aunt...) is pissed off because we are holding Thanksgiving at my other Uncle D's house(they uncle's are twins), so now my Uncle R, his wife & his kids(my cousins) are boycotting T-giving & call my mother(the sister) repeatedly to ***** about it.

[Bluetree]

my sister and my mother are masters of still being mad about what happened to them when they were six. my mother finally dropped all the complaints about her bad childhood after her mother died at the age of 92.
(she'll still start up about it if you ask her though!!)

Mimi, I feel for you.
My mother's family has split up over an argument between two of her brothers and everyone has taken sides. Now, each side has not spoken to each other in over two years, although some live only 10 miles away. It's all about money... my grandparents' inheritance. Had they know that the money would be so devisive, they probably would have given it away to some animal shelter instead.
If there is any positive to come out of this, it is the solemn pledge my brother and I made to each other that we would never allow the same foolishness to come between us.
Family feuds are not easy to live with!

Joy

[mimitabby]

How about telling them both that for whatever reason, the old garbage is fouling the air and needs to be cleaned out- therefore, if they BOTH write a simple apology note or phone call to the other....this only works if nobody is allowed to try to tell the other that they were wrong, or why they were upset, or start bringing up the whole scenario again.
Just a simple non-judgemental apology and move forward: "I'm sorry that I may have said or done things to upset you. Can we start over?" If you can get them on the phone and make them each read out that sentance (and nothing more), perhaps they can both start fresh.
The problem persists when one person continues to try to prove the other one wrong. It's old trash that needs to be thrown out already.

Lisa, thanks for listening. I am afraid if they actually talk about it my sister is going to continue rehashing and then he is going to get mad and walk out (not on me, on the confrontation)