At present I am wearing a pair of Canari Womens Trail Baggy Shorts with these specs:

Hydrofleese chamois pad
Mesh lined sideseam pockets
Elastic waistband w/drawstring
Integrated inner gusset panel
Softouch leg grippers

My husband bought me these, he knows I'm a little modest and thought I would like them over the regular cycling shorts. He has been cycling for over a year and has some great cycling buddies that have helped him a long the way and he does his best to help me (he is a great motivator, I wouldn't be riding long distance if it weren't for him!) but obviously he can't relate to all of my challenges.

Like I said, I'm new to this and have had no women input on any of this so any advise on shorts, gear, tricks of the trade, etc would be greatly appreciated!!!

I am presently looking at new saddles, I will let you know what comes of it. Until I get one I think I'm going to have my husband turn the nose of the saddle down ever so slightly so there isn't so much pressure on that one point of contact.