I have a Serfas saddle that I love. But, we're all different. Be sure your LBS doesn't try to sell you something really wide. "Women-specific" saddles tend to be wider & if you have a narrow pelvis, this would be worse.

You will "toughen up" over time. In the meantime, try Desitin (sp?)- the baby rash ointment. It has a slight numbing agent and will fight any bacteria that you might have going. If your skin is a little raw you need to keep yourself very clean down there.

After you shower, take your blow dryer - on the cold setting - & blow yourself dry. Then rub on your Desitin ointment. I would wear a small pad so that you don't get the ointment all over your undies. If you can wear pants that are loose, or a nice flowing skirt, it will help the air circulate & make you feel better.

And look at some saddles with cut outs. You'll have lots more miles of happy riding.

Keep us posted!