I think the disconnect happens when you start "thinking" about the connection you just made.

The connect happens (in my past) when my brain stopped buzzing and my body just went with it... like riding a horse bareback. You are the horse, the horse is you. As soon as you go "Wow! this is great, how the hell am I doing this" you go boom.

I try to save the thought process for afterwards... writing it, analizing it, whatever.