Whining about work and dh (I'm probably PMSy)

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

It seems to me that things are not reasonable at all in this situation.
I think you need to talk seriously- preferably with a third party present who has professional experience with mediating and working through couples' problems together.

[Lise]

...and you're training for your first marathon? Does he support you in that? It might be a way to open the conversation.

[limewave]

Lise, we are actually training for the marathon together. And he is very supportive as far as that goes.

I think he grew up where his mom did everything. I have to say on his behalf that about once every six weeks he gets a bug up his butt and he cleans, cleans, cleans--its ridiculous. But then the next day its a mess again because he doesn't know how to pick up after himself.

Thanks for listening girls. I really needed to get that out of my system. I'm taking the afternoon off tomorrow for a massage and vegging. I can't wait. I'm planning to have a chat with DH the next time we have a weekend together--when we are away from home and from work and everything stressful so that we can look at things rationally.

Thanks again!

[Kano]

Once, I was traveling. I came home to a very proud of himself DH. While I was gone, he needed some clean laundry, and had to move it down to the laundry room.

He bought himself a laundry basket to carry it all down.

He said, when I got home, "see? and when it's full, I take it down to the laundry room and put all the clothes in the sorting baskets..."

I waited and waited, and the basket got heaped higher and higher....

Sometimes, I took stuff that wasn't in the basket down to the laundry room, and washed that stuff, but I waited and waited....

Well, he SAID "I take it down" right?

Karen in Boise

[slinkedog]

Once, I was traveling. I came home to a very proud of himself DH. While I was gone, he needed some clean laundry, and had to move it down to the laundry room.

He bought himself a laundry basket to carry it all down.

He said, when I got home, "see? and when it's full, I take it down to the laundry room and put all the clothes in the sorting baskets..."

I waited and waited, and the basket got heaped higher and higher....

Sometimes, I took stuff that wasn't in the basket down to the laundry room, and washed that stuff, but I waited and waited....

Well, he SAID "I take it down" right?

Karen in Boise

So I'm dying to know where it is now and if it's full or not!

[rocknrollgirl]

I am going home and kiss my DH, I married a gem and I am soooooo blessed. If a hand went up in my face, it would pull back missing a finger or two. I understand stress, but thatis really rude.

GRRRHHHH!!!!

Ruth

[Kano]

Regarding DH's special laundry basket:

So I'm dying to know where it is now and if it's full or not!

Slinkedog, the basket is down in the laundry room right now, and there's lots of laundry in the bedroom. Several years have passed, and I still wait to see if he will bring it downstairs when it's full. And I still take stuff from the floor down now and again and do laundry, and once in a while, I might take some stuff out of the basket to wash, but then I fill it back up again, like it was when I started digging around in it...

Karen in Boise