Dear Nokomis,

I agree with everyone who's said "don't ride until you want to." There's a lot of freedom in that. When you come to dread something you once loved, it's a clear sign to take a rest.

I know how it is to be an infertility patient. I did it for 3 years, two surgeries, two HSGs, countless drugs, donated eggs for 3 IVF cycles, and a miscarriage. The hope/dispair cycle of that is nearly indescribable. From my heart, I encourage you to rest and nurture yourself. I felt like I'd become a broken, defective woman when I couldn't conceive or carry a baby. Riding my bike has been part of the healing from that. So if the joy becomes a burden, find another source of joy.

I'll bet you get back on the bike some day. It maybe very different from the way you've done it so far with your DH. Find the way that works for you. And listen to that voice that says, "Enough".

Best wishes,

Lise