I don' t know about long term, but day by day i don't always want to ride.
My Dh is a lot more of a zealot than me. He rides twice the miles I do. that means he rides with different people than me, and different kinds of rides.
(this weekend he's doing 160 miles the backwards ride around mount rainier and I am doing two 10 mile rides, for example.) When the weather changes
I don't even want to go outside for days...

If you're always trying to keep up with him, no wonder it's no fun.
so yeah, part of what i think we do here is pep talk each other, so you hear all the good stuff..