I struggled for a long, long, *LONG* time getting more and more confused by everyone's suggestions.

For me it was just a matter TIME. I could practice in the grass and on a trainer all I wanted but it never made me feel more secure stopping at lights and at signs with cars, pedestrians, and/or packs of group-ride bikes all around me.

I had to just keep "calling out" when I was "stopping" or "slowing" and just do things cautiously (and my way) until TIME, TIME, TIME started working it's magic. I had a few painful falls in the beginning but I never gave up and now I am off the brakes because the feet and pedals have learned to get along.

It will be the same for you. BE PATIENT with yourself and you will be fine.

Enjoy the ride!