OT - Movies

[snapdragen]

I liked Big Fish, and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. I haven't seen Sleepy Hollow, but I am in the club that thinks Johnny Depp could read the phone book and it would be facinating!

[Nanci]

OMG, when I saw Big Fish in the theatre, at the end, I started crying. Not just tears dripping down my face, and sniffling, but all-out bawling, wahhh, wahhh, wahhh. It reminded me of my father, I guess. I have never cried like that at a movie.

[SadieKate]

Sad crying? Good crying? What?

Bill wants to watch Sleepy Hollow but I dunno. I'm such a fragile flower of feminity when it comes to horror movies.

[Nanci]

Sad crying. Just miss my dad crying. It's not fair that I am 47 and my parents have both been dead for over 10 years. All the stuff they don't know about me. Cave diving, divorce, moving to Florida, grandchildren, cycling, running, triathlons- I don't get to share any of it.

Big Fish is worth watching. I want to see it again. Maybe it'll be like Green Mile- I know perfectly well how it's going to end, but I still bawl my eyes out. never anything like how Big Fish affected me, though.

[maillotpois]

Ditto what Nanci said. All out bawling. And I am dead inside, according to my family. Charming and funny movie.

[emily_in_nc]

Sad crying. Just miss my dad crying. It's not fair that I am 47 and my parents have both been dead for over 10 years. All the stuff they don't know about me. Cave diving, divorce, moving to Florida, grandchildren, cycling, running, triathlons- I don't get to share any of it.

Nanci ~ I am so sorry about your losses. I am fortunate enough to still have my mom, but my dad died late last year, and it still hurts a lot. Every day when I look at his picture in my living room, I think that it's just wrong that he is not here. I miss sharing my life with him and telling him what I am doing, and seeing the pride in his eyes. I haven't been able to bring myself to ride on the road since he died (in a car accident). I am planning to take a short ride to the farmer's market with my husband next Saturday and hope that I have the strength to do it. I know my dad would want me to go on living, but I miss him so very much, so your post really struck a chord. On a more positive note, as a direct result of losing my dad and becoming fearful of the road, I have discovered the joys of mountain biking, and I love it. Thanks, Dad. And thank you, Nanci, for sharing your feelings. I hear you loud and clear....

Emily

[Nanci]

Emily, all I can tell you is that's it's ok, sort of, when one is gone, but when both are gone, you become anchorless. It's awful. And then, one night, you will have a dream, and one or the other will be there, just as if it was yesterday, talking the same, looking the same, being the same, as if they were still alive. I always wake up and am thankful for those dreams that keep the tangible things about my parents alive.

[velogirl]

Emily, all I can tell you is that's it's ok, sort of, when one is gone, but when both are gone, you become anchorless. It's awful. And then, one night, you will have a dream, and one or the other will be there, just as if it was yesterday, talking the same, looking the same, being the same, as if they were still alive. I always wake up and am thankful for those dreams that keep the tangible things about my parents alive.

I'm with you, Nanci (I was an orphan at 36). Losing both parents is something no one can understand until they've been there. What's worse is when you lose both parents and don't have any other family. I'm single, my siblings are estranged, no children -- just me against the world.

I got a puppy a year after my mom died because I couldn't bear the pain. Not quite the same, but it helps. I actually got her one year (to the date) after my mom's death and named her after my mom. I'm sure some folks think it's weird to name a dog after a dead parent, but I thought it was just natural and a great tribute.

And I have some vivid dreams with my folks in them -- usually guiding me in some way.

[Kitsune06]

I was 'meh' about Sleepy Hollow, because though I love Johnny Depp, I'm picky about my movies.

Now Big Fish...

My husband and I both cried because he related to the dad in the film so much, and I cried because he *is* so much like that character. It was a happy cry for both of us, but it wasn't until recently (a year or two later!) that he admitted that he can now watch it without crying. It's sweet and very touching. I liked it a lot.

Nanci-
My dad lost both his parents in a car accident when he was 18, and despite how he never talked about it, it was always something that was sort of 'there'... but not something I could hope to understand or empathize with. I'm glad to have my parents, but I wish I could've understood his loss more as I was growing up. Maybe kids just aren't meant to be a big comforting force- they just happen to say/ask too many awkward things without meaning to

[SadieKate]

Big Fish is starting now. We'll see. I have a very complicated relationship with both my parents. A lot of regrets about what could be. Multiple generations of damage and now dementia or something is setting in.

Bill watched the end of Sleepy Hollow and thought it would be too gruesome for me.