I too have seperation anxiety at different times of the month when my husband goes off to work. And at other times can't stand to be around him because he has a very stressful job and when I'm feeling on the upswing he can very easily bring me down. I love him to death and have been going to a therapist for years but now that I'm starting to go through the change, I need it more than ever. I have found that doing research on your own can help alot. Doctors vary on this subject and it sucks. What works for one may not work for another. I have found the book "The Wisdom of Menopause" to be of great help too. It's a big book and haven't gotten through it all yet. The only thing that I must say is that the author does talk about her divorce that she had the courage to do in the midst of her "change" was a bit unsettleing for me during my downswing. Made me second guess even my marriage which is pretty strong. Just learned when I should read it and when not to.