We had a similar, but slightly bigger wedding with 20 people, including ourselves. We had the rabbi come to our apartment, set up a portable chuppah and do the ceremony. My parents provided champagne and appetizers right after, and then we took everyone (it was almost all our immediate family/siblings) to dinner at a restaurant on the top of the tall (10 story?) bank building in downtown Mesa, AZ. They had a little cake for us there. Afterwards, we all went into the lounge for dancing.
I sort of lack the bride gene, too. We regretted not including our friends, though. We splurged a little more on our kids' Bar Mitzvahs, but nothing outrageous; luncheon at a nice restaurant, DJ, dancing. We had 50 at the first one and 100 at the second.