Has anyone heard of this: Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)?

I have sought out several venues for help parenting DD (almost 5 yo). I've listened to hours of tapes of Love & Logic, been to seminars, tried "1-2-3 Magic!" and all sorts of things. When I've asked for help from the experts, they give me step-by-step instructions. And I reply, "Okay, I do that, but what do you do AFTER that? When DD is still screaming, still hitting, still kicking, throwing, etc after 3 hours and STILL will not quit?" I always get a perplexed look from the "expert."

Recently it was suggested by a doctor that she has ODD. Is this really just another word for "stubborn"? He really didn't give me any advice or seek to put her on medication (which I don't want to do).

This still doesn't solve anything. I'm just so tired. Her behavior takes so much time and effort from me. I feel like I have nothing left to give to DS (15 months).

She goes to daycare regularly and the teachers adore her. She doesn't have any behavioral problems there, so that's good