I agree that "steep" is in the eye of the beholder, but this is one of those times that I think it would help to put some objective numbers in.

When I traveled to Dallas to do the Lone Star Ride with my sister, not a soul could tell me objectively what the terrain was like. Even my sister, who's ridden in lots of different terrain but really isn't familiar with the places I've ridden, could only tell me, "It's not flat...?" I considered bringing my old bike - just to give her a chance to get ridden. But the reason I don't ride that bike here is that my legs just won't drive the tall gears any more and I didn't want to bring her along and then be miserable at 60 rpm for 175 miles. As it turned out, I would've been fine - I don't think there was anything steeper than 6% or longer than a mile on the whole ride.

Now that the USGS has posted those topo maps though, we don't have to rely so much on ride organizers.

As far as putting the hazardous intersections on the cue sheets, we do that for our ride, and we "CAUTION" the road in advance, but those kinds of things are hard to really understand unless you've done them once before.