Thanks everyone... I'm still mulling things over. For the next two days it's a moot point, as monday is a federal holiday, and tuesday is a local holiday - MARDI GRAS! This city is in full party mode, no mail delivery or open post offices until wednesday.

But I think that if she can't ask me directly, then I'm not going to play the game. She always was a passive-agressive one. She's the one I've learned it from, and over the years, I've learned to be more direct, less fustration in the long run.

sigh