Bacarver, I have a close friend who had an adoption that did not work and was later rescinded, and have worked with a couple of parents who have experienced this. You are definitely not alone. Let me check with the close friend when I get back to work next week to see if she has any support group info---she may well---or other resources for you. I am sorry. Very painful stuff. Please know that with the best will in the world, you can't always make things work for other people, and that this is not your fault.