When I got married 12 years ago I didn't want to have a shower for several reasons...I am not big on getting attention from people and I didn't want people to feel like they had to buy things for me. My Mom and MIL strongly encouraged me to have one because " that is what people do" I don't even remember where I registered but I do know I made sure to register for items under $50. I would not feel right having people buy me expensive items. Gosh from reading the above posts I can't believe how materialistic people have become. Isn't a wedding more then just what gifts people give/receive?