What do you think would happen if you wrote down all of the incidents that you have been accused of and made a copy for both him and her. You might sit down with both of them and the list and tell them that you do not appreciate the way that you are being treated, that you don't want to be caught in the middle, and that you do not want to hear their personal business. Also that you aren't on anyone's side. Offer to support them in any way possible as far as the business goes.

Personally I'd rather have a different job that I can come home and not bring the stress and baggage with me, says the Social Worker with really messed up clients who generally prefer to make decisions that decrease their quality of living and make her want to rip her/their hair out!