a lot of good posts here. My DH will never forget my Bday because it's 5 days before his and he likes to crow about how we're the same age for 5 days.

I think you have to evaluate this guy. Does he do his share? is he kind to the kids? Does he cheat, lie?
Maybe he's not the romantic type. Can you live without that?

Next time TELL him what you want or expect. All you had to do was say " oh, how about like what i did for your birthday 2 years ago?" and if he doesn't remember what that was, then you refresh his memory.

After being married for 30 years, one of the biggest lessons I have learned (still learning) is that my husband is not a mind reader. He TRIES, he reallly does, but he just CANNOT do it.

If he's worth it, get over your hurt feelings (caused by your own expectations) and get on with life. it's far too short to waste your time nursing hurt feelings.

and happy birthday. 30 is a really heavy year, lift it with dignity, you're a grownup now.