Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[Trek420]

Sure it's great riding with your guy, but it's also helpful--and fun--to get involved with other riding buddies, especially other women. They're out there--just may take some hunting to find them.

The one thing I dislike about cycling (besides that most events start too fracking early in the morning ) is the whole matching thang of the sport layering into cultures of different speeds/distances.

I ride ___ mph and prefer 30 mile rides, s/he rides ___ mph and isn't warmed up till 40 miles, this one sprints so vertical s/he'll fall over backwards, that one hates climbing .... so none of us can ever ride together, right? Wrong. Though sometimes it's hard for even the most devoted supportive symbiotic gently shin kicking of partners and friends to ride together it can be done.

While there are a few couples on this board who ride each others pace I think most also ride alone and/or with other groups. Some TE'ers SO's don't even ride whether because they can't or don't want to. This isn't out of being any less close to the other, sometimes you just find good ride buddies who ride your pace.

One should always be able to find creative ways to share the sport and be supportive of one another. That may mean preparation for the ride, starting and ending together, the faster rider gets to ride the freewheel mixte while slower rider takes the road bike TE gal preps the bike while your guy preps the recovery meal, or even just talking about your latest epic ride and planning the next one.

I have few regrets in life but one is that I never got to ride with my cousin's fiance Kathy who died in a bike crash. The rides I do, too slow for them, the rides they did ... out of my league, Terrible Two, Davis Double ... stuff I can't even imagine. First time I rode with my cousin was her memorial.

My cousin and I have made a point to do some rides together since. Yeah he rides up and down and back up Old Tunnel Road in the time I do it once ... but I'm out there with him.

Life's short, find a way to ride together.