She puts her dogs nose in the urine and gives a smack on the hind legs after the accident and puts her out. I never did this with mine to train her.
This is an area that you can address, without completely treading on dangerous territory.

Tell her that you read somewhere that swatting a dog with a piece of paper, is 100 times better, because then the dog does not come to fear your hand, but the paper instead.

Start there. Maybe she will see how slapping her kid is like slapping the dog... and stop it all together?


Something I have learned in life... if you have a *friend* who's behavior you simply cannot tolerate... or you don't understand how they manage their life... then it's best to cut ties with that friend.